This fall, a friend shared something that I’ve been thinking about ever since: “Christianity is, at its heart, a spirituality of subtraction.” It sounds counterintuitive – we’re so used to thinking we need to do more — act better, memorize more Bible verses, give more. But what if growth is actually about letting go? Subtracting? As we deepen our relationship with God, we slowly release the things that rob us of joy and peace. The old comfort mechanisms (seeking others’ approval, striving/achieving, chasing financial security) gradually fall away. As we learn to trust God instead of the comfort mechanisms we learn a radical truth: we are enough, we are beloved, just as we are.
Lately, I’ve caught myself falling into an old habit. When life gets overwhelming—and honestly, two teenagers at home means life is always a bit chaotic—I start living in some imagined future. A week from now, a month ahead, six months down the line: I’m constantly looking ahead to when things might slow down. But the problem is I’m missing right now. I’m so busy waiting for a moment of calm that I’m not experiencing the moment I’m actually in.
I recently read Pastor Rich Villodas describe what he calls “the deeply formed life,” and his words echoed this idea of subtraction. He says, “The deeply formed life is one that takes seriously the call of renunciation.” It’s about choosing a different rhythm —learning to say no to the noise, to subtract rather than constantly add. When we stop trying to do everything, we create space to actually be present. This feels especially poignant right now, with my high school senior. These moments are precious and fleeting. I don’t want to look back and realize I was so busy managing life that I missed living it.
This Advent my prayer for myself and for all of you is simple: subtract what steals my joy and my presence. Create space to breathe, to notice, to be fully here — create space for God to enter in. Amen.
Holly